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Five Ways to Grow a Culture of Trust

Posted by Pastor J.D. on March 27, 2017
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Around the Summit offices, we often remind ourselves to “Assume the best about others” and “Give the benefit of the doubt wherever we can.” As staff culture goes, I think we do remarkably well. But we need to be vigilant about cultivating trust, because trust doesn’t come natural to any of us. We’re like cars out of alignment: The moment we take our hands off the wheel, we veer right back into mistrust and suspicion.

Here are five ways we can help a culture of trust grow on our staff.

1. Fill in the gaps with trust.

As Andy Stanley puts it, we all know what it’s like to face a gap between expectation and reality. The meeting started at 2:00 (expectation) but your coworker walks in at 2:20 (reality). An important project goes live (reality) without anyone consulting you (expectation).

When we sense one of these gaps, we have a choice. Our natural tendency is to fill the gap with suspicion: He was late because he’s lazy; she didn’t consult me because she doesn’t value my opinion; he said that because he’s a racist. But cultivating a culture of trust means choosing to fill those gaps with trust instead.

We might think this is difficult, but there’s one person in our lives that we tend to treat this way already—ourselves. Patrick Lencioni (in The Advantage) points out that we all tend to attribute our own negative behaviors to environmental factors. I was late because someone stopped me on the way out the door, and it would have been rude to blow him off. I couldn’t get the assignment done because I have too much on my plate. I didn’t ask Phil for his feedback because I thought he was out of town. We “fill the gap with trust” all the time with ourselves. What we need to do is to extend the same kindness to others.

Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” right? Shouldn’t the Golden Rule extend to the way we interpret others’ actions?

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The Quadrant of Fearless Feedback

Posted by Pastor J.D. on March 22, 2017
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We rolled this one out in 2013, shortly after presenting the same material to our Summit staff. I’ve found myself coming back to this concept again and again in the past few years. Thus, the “Quadrant of Fearless Feedback” gets another cameo. Enjoy.

Like most people, I like being affirmed. And I don’t enjoy receiving criticism. But not every example of praise or criticism is created equal. One of our staff members recently shared with me the “Quadrant of Fearless Feedback,” part of a training he received at a past job (at Apple). It is a simple but helpful grid that I’ve encouraged our staff to put into practice as they give and receive feedback:

I. General Positive  II. Positive Specific 
IV. General Negative  III. Negative Specific

I. General Positive

These are the sorts of compliments that are so generic they frequently go in one ear and out the other. “I’m so grateful for your ministry.” or “You the man!” or (I get this one a lot) “Great sermon.” We usually appreciate feedback like this, but it doesn’t last long. Regardless of the actual words used, this type of feedback really only communicates that you have some vaguely positive sentiment. It is the verbal equivalent of a smile.

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Hell Is the Default Destination

Posted by Pastor J.D. on March 20, 2017
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Most people assume that as long as they don’t mess things up in their time here on earth, they’ll go to heaven when they die. But Scripture says the opposite. God created us for heaven, but the rebellion of the human race, in which we are all participating, has destined us for hell.

Hell, not heaven, is our default destination.

Notice the breadth of who is described as going to hell in Revelation 21:8: “But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death” (ESV).

Included in that list are the ones you’d expect: murderers, sorcerers, etc. The “really bad” guys. But it also includes a lot of people who could be found in the church, like:

  • The cowardly – those who would never stand for Jesus in front of their friends
  • The faithless – those who went to church but never really trusted God enough to obey him with their relationships or their money
  • Idolaters – those who wouldn’t put God first in their lives
  • Liars -those who came to church but whose submission to God was not sincere

Hell is an eternal place of torment, and all of us—no matter where we fall in that list—are deserving of its agony. That reality makes me think of the words of Charles Spurgeon: “These are such weighty things, such that when I dwell upon them, I feel far more inclined to sit down and weep than to stand up and speak to you.”

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